What Does It Mean To Be Fearless?

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Overcoming my fear of guns

How many times do we find ourselves frozen by fear?

Our hearts palpitate, our breathing becomes shallow and fast, and soon we’re paralyzed by trepidation. At moments when we need to lunge forward, our feet plant as though in cement.

Fear takes many forms. I’ve often found myself arrested by the fear of disapproval. I feared looking back on my life and discovering wasted opportunities or unrealized potential. A great worry for me was not making as significant a contribution to the planet as my family has done.

Maybe you are a perfectionist and battle the fear of failure. Or you’re shy and stave off the fear of success. Whatever brand of fear you experience, the emotion can be debilitating.

Everyone experiences fear sometimes — it’s part of being human. But no matter how overwhelmed and paralyzed your fear is making you feel, you can break through to fearlessness.

So what does it mean to be fearless?

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Overcoming my fear of skydiving

Fearlessness is not the absence of fear. Rather, it’s the mastery of fear.

Fearlessness is about getting up one more time than we fall down. The more comfortable we are with the possibility of falling down, the more fearless we will be, and the easier our journey will become.

“Fear is just a call to exercise courage.” <- Click to Tweet

Without fear, we can’t have courage. We cannot act courageous in any situation unless we have something to protect, something to honor, something to prove, or something to commit to. Fear is a call to action and that action should be courageous.

“Courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is the willingness to act in spite of your fear.” <- Click to Tweet

When I’m afraid, I’ve conditioned myself to walk right into my fears rather than away from them.

If people can get used to that, their fear will dissipate. Most of the power of fear is in your mind; it doesn’t really exist. It’s just this idea that looms because we are unwilling to face it.

The best way to defuse your fear is to step into it—right into the middle of it—and do the thing that you are afraid to do.

Be courageous today. Look fear in the eye and shoot it down. Don’t let it take over. Don’t let it win.

Designing a Fearless Life doesn’t mean all your fears will disappear.  Designing a Fearless Life means you will boldly move in the direction of your fears until you overcome them.

What is one fear that you’re committed to overcoming in the next 30 days?  Leave a comment below.

To Your Fearless Life,

Peter

Comments

  1. thebarkingunicorn says:

    Courage is overcoming fear. Bravery is banishing fear. Courage is common, bravery is truly rare; not because it is more difficult to be brave than to be courageous, but because people don’t believe it’s possible to banish fear, so few even try.

    Fear can be likened to friction, which also impedes motion and generates “waste” energy (heat). When friction is eliminated rather than overcome, astonishing things become possible. Magnetically levitated high-speed commuter trains are just one example. Liquid helium climbing up and over the wall of a beaker is another. Can you think of any more?

    All fear is fear of loss. When you realize that you have nothing to lose, you lose all fear. You become brave, and astonish.

    • Peter Scott says:

      Great insights David, I appreciate your perspective. I like the distinction you’ve made between courage and bravery.

      I believe that feeling fear is a good thing, because it brings awareness to the fact that you are pushing yourself beyond your comfort zone and growing. My question is, if you had no fear, could you truly be brave? Isn’t fear required in order for someone to embody bravery?

      • thebarkingunicorn says:

        Peter, I receive email notices of replies to my comments. I clicked on the “reply” button at the bottom of the notice I just received and got a 404 error from your blog; whatever URL that reply button points to does not exist.

        If you do not fear you ARE brave, by definition; it is only superfluous courage that you lack.

        I try to avoid relativistic words such as “good” and “bad.” Friction has its uses; walking would be impossible without friction, for instance. Fear has its uses, too; fear of losing one’s health precludes tobacco use. But one doesn’t use a hammer in every Making, and fear is not useful under most circumstances.

      • Peter Scott says:

        Thanks for bringing that to my attention David. I will resolve it shortly.

        Thanks for clarifying your beliefs around fear.

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